by Joncara Marshall
Being a lawyer can be extremely hectic as you meet with clients, work with people in your field, prepare for cases, and try to move forward in your career. But then there are those moments when you just want to turn it all off- forget about your responsibilities and head to a sunny beach with your family or relax on the couch.
More often than not, you find yourself at your desk, in court, or at a conference, working tirelessly until you realize it is time to go to bed. Most people who work long schedules find themselves awake 2 o’clock in the morning wondering where the day had gone and regretting how they did not spend it doing what they truly enjoy. This is called the hour of the wolf, an experience that can leave people sleepless and depressed about their lives.
In the Esquire Coaching Radio broadcast, “The Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living,” guest Paul Lipton gives advice from his book, Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living, on how lawyers can find balance in their lives. As a trial attorney with over 40 years of experience, Paul faced personal obstacles such as his parents’ death and sickness that caused him to reevaluate what was important in his life. He says that nobody gets out of life alive and lawyers must make time for themselves to be successful in life.
Paul explains that there are five decisions or choice that people need to make about their lives:
- Health: You must calendar yourself in to your schedule and take care of your body. Make time to exercise each day by doing stretches in the morning or taking a walk without looking at your phone. Try connecting with your environment such as saying “hello” to your neighbors or listening to a dog bark.
- Family and Friends: As a lawyer, you often spend time with people who you do not care about as much as you do about your children or good friends. Shut off your phone and have down time with those who matter the most to you in your life. Time is your greatest asset and cannot be recovered if you lose it.
- “Spirit”: Whether it is through religion or nature, try to connect to the larger story of your life. How people live their daily lives creates meaning in their life’s story.
- Learning: You find passion when you try to learn a new skill either at work or at home.
- Fun: This is your only life; there is no point in being miserable. Instead of begrudging Mondays or being upset about a choice you made, be grateful for being able to see another day and do something that you really enjoy. You are entitled to have fun.
When you look back on your life, Paul says that you want to be the hero of your life story, or to have meaning in your life. As you live your life for yourself and others, you ultimately defeat the wolf.
If you would like to listen to the broadcast, as well as past broadcasts, go to www.blogtalkradio.com/esquire-coaching. New shows air on Wednesdays from 5:30 p.m-6:00 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. You can find Paul’s book, Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living, on Amazon.com in paperback or on the Kindle or Kindle reading app.
How do you handle the “hour of the wolf”? Did you find the advice helpful? Leave a comment. If you would like to read more articles about work/life balance or other topics, email us at info@EsquireCoaching.com.