How Not to Become Your Own Personal Injury Case

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Cynthia Lackner, certified Emotional Brain Training Provider

Today on Esquire Coaching Radio, Cynthia Lackner is going to speak about the process she uses to help attorneys stay in balance and out of stress. As an attorney, you might be performing at a high level of excellence, so you are most likely unaware of how you are not in balance but in stress. The problem with that is, over 80% of human suffering and disease is now caused by stress.

Cynthia has a Masters in psychology and is a certified Emotional Brain Training Provider. Her emphasis is on helping attorneys learn how to quickly self-regulate their stress response throughout the day. She has a private practice in Denver and also works with people on the phone, or through SKYPE from around the country and world-wide.She has lectured at the University of Colorado and Denver Law Schools, Lawyers Helping Lawyers board, Colorado Defense Lawyers Association, Colorado Trial Lawyers conference and the Colorado Legislative Legal Services.Learning the self-regulation skills and tools takes approximately six 1 hour sessions.
Doctors often refer patients to her to help them destress.

To hear our interview with Cynthia, join us LIVE tonight at 5:30 pm EST/2:30 pm PST by clicking here.

How to stay stress-free

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Take a moment. Close your eyes & observe your thoughts. How many responsibilities are causing you stress right now? That brief? A demanding client? Coordinating a ride for the kids? Oh, and there’s that dinner party this weekend. . .

In this fast-paced world we live in, and particularly in the legal profession, stress is just a given. . . or is it? If you stay quiet for another moment, you may start to attain further detachment from that hamster wheel of stressful thoughts. Maybe you’ll find that the “you” who’s observing your thoughts is at peace, sees them as a little humorous, or perhaps isn’t attached to outcomes. The truth is, we all have the ability to access peace within every single moment of the day! It’s just a matter of training ourselves – gently!stress-relief1 – to do so.

Think back to those times in your life when you’ve been most “in the zone” and at peace, when even a seemingly difficult sequence of tasks flowed effortlessly and you felt on top of your game. This often happens when we play sports, an instrument, meditate, gaze at the sunset, or are involved in a meaningful conversation with a friend. Time becomes irrelevant and in our time-obsessed culture, these instances are crucial to prevent burnout! How can YOU integrate a little more of “the zone,” a little more peace into your day?

Though it can seem that the to-do list is never-ending, many resources are available, within you and outside of you that can make stress manageable!

I invite you to reach out to me at Ann@EsquireCoaching.com to set up a coaching session if you want to get proactive about addressing your stress level and implementing the work-life balance that works for you.

I also want to share with you this number for The American Bar Association Commission on Lawyer Assistance Programs’s National Helpline for Lawyers: 1-866-LAW-LAPS.

Now let’s look at some tips for stress-management, shall we?

  1. Time management: It’s tempting to want to tackle the easiest tasks first, but I’m sure you know that prioritizing the most time-consuming, potentially difficult tasks feels better in the long run, and actually gives you energy as you accomplish them and move onto what’s next on the list. Whether it’s a very left-brain oriented itemized list, an intuitive and colorful flow chart on your wall, or pop-up reminders in your phone’s calendar, come up with something that feels good to look at and address daily, a system that feels like your ally. Then, go for it, and the task that’s most like a mountain will quickly seem like a molehill!
  2. Be aware of your thoughts and emotions: Let’s come back to the exercise we tried at the beginning of this post – observe your thoughts. Use your lawyerly skills to your advantage and refute the ones that don’t support you, inserting more loving and encouraging ones in their place. Becoming a vigilant observer of your thoughts and feelings means you’re behind the wheel, instead of letting old subconscious programming (usually instilled by our parents early in life) steer you into mayhem and stress. Empower yourself, and when you feel things slipping out of your control, lovingly look at what false belief is influencing you. Remember, you’re competent, capable, brilliant, and infinitely adaptable! What are some other supportive concepts and words that can counter the Negative Nancies in your head?
  3. Practice relaxation techniques: Stretching, deep breathing, a brief walk outside. . . . It’s no surprise that each of these calms you, gives you perspective, and brings you back into the present moment and your body (let’s face it, as lawyers, we tend to be a bit disconnected from our bodies with the exception of our brains!).
  4. Delegate: Let go of some of that control and let your support team support you. Be communicative and clear, and have confidence in the staff you’ve chosen or have been assigned. You will likely be pleasantly surprised at the weight that you can release by letting others catch you a bit more… and hold you up!
  5. Have an outlet outside of work: Your job is intense; there’s no doubt about that! What enlivening, energizing, and/or relaxing hobby can match or mitigate that intensity in a positive way? Perhaps you’ve already found that and explore that passion regularly. Good for you! Keep it going. If not, start to brainstorm.  Think about how you want to spend your weekends (or better yet, clip images of it and create a vision board!). Give yourself the adventurous and nurturing life out of work that gives you the extra oomph to greet Monday with a smile (or at least not a grimace) and have some good memories & stories to tell while you’re at it!

And now it’s your turn! What is your lifesaver when it comes to stress management? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!

Interview with Attorney & Author Paul Lipton

by Joncara Marshall

Being a lawyer can be extremely hectic as you meet with clients, work with people in your field, prepare for cases, and try to move forward in your career. But then there are those moments when you just want to turn it all off- forget about your responsibilities and head to a sunny beach with your family or relax on the couch.

More often than not, you find yourself at your desk, in court, or at a conference, working tirelessly until you realize it is time to go to bed. Most people who work long schedules find themselves awake 2 o’clock in the morning wondering where the day had gone and regretting how they did not spend it doing what they truly enjoy. This is called the hour of the wolf, an experience that can leave people sleepless and depressed about their lives.

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Paul Lipton, author of Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living

In the Esquire Coaching Radio broadcast, “The Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living,” guest Paul Lipton gives advice from his book, Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living, on how lawyers can find balance in their lives. As a trial attorney with over 40 years of experience, Paul faced personal obstacles such as his parents’ death and sickness that caused him to reevaluate what was important in his life. He says that nobody gets out of life alive and lawyers must make time for themselves to be successful in life.

Paul explains that there are five decisions or choice that people need to make about their lives:

  1. Health: You must calendar yourself in to your schedule and take care of your body. Make time to exercise each day by doing stretches in the morning or taking a walk without looking at your phone. Try connecting with your environment such as saying “hello” to your neighbors or listening to a dog bark.
  2. Family and Friends: As a lawyer, you often spend time with people who you do not care about as much as you do about your children or good friends. Shut off your phone and have down time with those who matter the most to you in your life. Time is your greatest asset and cannot be recovered if you lose it.
  3. “Spirit”: Whether it is through religion or nature, try to connect to the larger story of your life. How people live their daily lives creates meaning in their life’s story.
  4. Learning: You find passion when you try to learn a new skill either at work or at home.
  5. Fun: This is your only life; there is no point in being miserable. Instead of begrudging Mondays or being upset about a choice you made, be grateful for being able to see another day and do something that you really enjoy. You are entitled to have fun.

When you look back on your life, Paul says that you want to be the hero of your life story, or to have meaning in your life. As you live your life for yourself and others, you ultimately defeat the wolf.

If you would like to listen to the broadcast, as well as past broadcasts, go to www.blogtalkradio.com/esquire-coaching. New shows air on Wednesdays from 5:30 p.m-6:00 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. You can find Paul’s book, Hour of the Wolf: An Experiment in Ageless Living, on Amazon.com in paperback or on the Kindle or Kindle reading app.

How do you handle the “hour of the wolf”? Did you find the advice helpful? Leave a comment. If you would like to read more articles about work/life balance or other topics, email us at info@EsquireCoaching.com.

Is It REALLY Possible to Be A Rainmaker & Have a Life?

If you’re an attorney or other business owner who wants to increase sales and make a steady cash flow while keeping your sanity, then I have some great news for you. You have found the answer to the best-kept secret to keeping the cash coming in while creating a work-life balance you have always dreamed of.

I am co-author and compiling editor of the book The Happy Law Practice: Expert Strategies to Build Business While Maintaining Peace of Mind. I am so excited to introduce this to you because this book is a great wealth of information for lawyers like you who love what you do, but hate the business development part or struggle to feel like there’s enough time for your personal life.

This book offers practical, actionable strategies on marketing, branding, leadership, as well as wellness strategies, such as stress management and time management.  In fact, I wrote the chapter on Time Management.  Bottom line, The Happy Law Practice is your key to doing what you love most while bringing in MORE CLIENTS and keeping your SANITY.

Get a sneak peak into the book here: www.thehappylawpractice.com

We are launching the book on Amazon on March 25th, so mark your calendars!  Plus, we’re offering bonuses to those who purchase between March 25-27 valued at over $300.